Sunday, May 24, 2015

Baap ka raj attitude ....lacks basic courtesy or responsibility

Baap ka raj attitude ....lacks basic courtesy or responsibility
Recently my dear close old friend narrated a serious problem with accident insurance claim lying in motor accident tribunal of his family member who is in a vegetative state due to accident His story moved me. I went out of the way and called on sunday a CEO of one insurance co. to intervene and help in the matter. The way I requested he too went out of the way and got a response from the concerned insurer. Insurer disclosed to settle the issue at Rs 55 lacs and I wanted to see that he gets more then that. I called him for discussion. I forwarded all correspondence to my friend over night. I think he was thereafter approached by his lawyer and he must have settled at what insurer was offering. But at least he has not even bothered to give me any update forget even thanks which I do not want as atleast I treat him as family. I am at loss of face before the CEO whom I troubled so much but have not been able to update or thank him.
I hv seen people suddenly calling for a tel. no or some info and once we sms or email they don't acknowledge. And then v think they hv received info. But one of the person after months says I did not receive or file did not open etc etc.. Now why can't people timely acknowledge work done, not done, gift received, card received or so on when it is specific to them. They may not respond to mass mail or mass messages. But most people do not care to acknowledge after their work is done.
One person from my samaj / community told me that he was looking for match for his daughter for last 3 years but has been unlucky.I convinced him to use my free matrimonial site for community ( .After about a year I was travelling with his brother for a yatra and where by the way he mentioned that his brother found a match thru my site within a month. The girl is now happily married. Forget about extending a support to site, forget about spreading a good word about site forget about thinking of calling me for marriage he has not cared to even write a word to me.
This happens regularly. We help some for civic issues, medical issues, education issues and so on but the reward is that you find the respect goes to only monied or celebrities, And the samaj does not give any acknowledgement to those who work for samaj but who contribute for lunch for samaj and they honour such donors. Samaj hardly cares for those who build institutions for samaj and welfare of needy but give all praise to those who do rituals of vidhans.
RSVP: We just do not care to be responsible to our friends and relatives who invite us. Poor fellow books for 500 persons and 300 turn up and he books for 500 and 750 turn up. This is just an example.In a marriage or similar events if u ask repetedly that if u r coming and how many of you are coming then only few reply with certainty and clarity. So when u book hôtel rooms you are not sure. And in some marriages host has to sleep 6 instead of 2 per room and in some marriages half of the rooms go unused. Waste of money and resources due to irresponsible egoist guys.
Accepting responsibility: There r many who accept the responsibilities and then just do not do anything. And worst is they never even bother to handover the charge to others. This happens specially in social organisations but even in family functions I have seen that some people accept responsibility but do not do anything and not even care to inform. You may feel they are purposely trying to sabotage your event.
Reaching late with a pride: Most of us do not care to sms/ inform if they are going to be late for some reason. You may cancel any work or appointment for them and they may not come and may come late without and feeling of responsibility to inform. If u try to say anything then they will say to kya hua.
Expecting: The best thing is that those who have never ever done anything for you, in your need of hour, for the family responsibilities/ for the samaj are the ones who demand the most more you or from samaj/ community. They have ample time for who’s who, for personal entertainment, for tours and so on. They know to exercise full rights to claim in family or society or nation. But do not have time to contribute little of their time, resources, contacts or anything. It is well said unkamau aave chillata and kamau aave sir jhukata means one who earns for the family enters house humbly bowing head and one who earns nothing comes shouting, yelling, demanding.
So we live in the world with all kind of people and enjoy living with all variety and that makes world complete. Accept such people and continue your work as you have a khujali/ itching to do good and they have to exert, exploit and so on.
It is the path you have chosen so be calm and continue to be passionate about it without feeling suffocated though it is a suffocating world. 

My take on Giriraj Singh:

My take on Giriraj Singh: 

Alok says: Giriraj is a gira hua admi who has scared away 5% of non Hindu votes by his sinister talk. : Either this person has taken bribe from ISI to say something which will affect Modi or he needs to b in mental asylum.Rather any one talking divisive language should be in mental asylum.Everyone has freedom of joining , working and voting for any political party of his choice. That freedom can not be taken away. One has right to criticize anyone , right to ask for vote but has no right threaten. EC must put him behind bars and save nation .

My take on some Shri Khan scaring voters by saying Modi Qatil: 

Alok says: 800 years there were katil. U never say anything abt them? Today in Pak and BD Hindus live in worst situation but u never say anything. Kashmiri pundit had to run away u never said anything but now u say. Why u hv two standard. And as I see ppl in Gujarat r not scared as ppl in Kashmir. Why u hv Green eyes. Pl. reply what u say abt sufferings of Hindus in J and K , Pak, BD ? Has any haji attacked anywhere but in Jammu Hindu pilgrims are attacked regularly. I can't read my prayers by blocking road in Muslim areas but Muslims block whole traffic in Hindu area but we welcome them and still u create chaos, fear and speak bad abt Hindu leaders. There r many Muslim org which r blood soaked do u write abt them.

My appeal to Hindus and Muslims on FB

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  • Saturday, May 23, 2015

    equality must be everywhere no double standard

    I was dealing with one nice company Glolite electricals.But they only had Bohri Muslims as staff. I thought it OK as what ever suits the management and makes them comfortable is right. I had several Muslims and christians as my staff and we are still connected. It depends on individuals choice. I do not know why halla gulla. hear those who make great noise but does not speak any thing against biased rather atrocious attitude against Hindu and christian minorities in Saudi, BD, PAK is shocking. First let all demand right to own religion in Saudi and then demand anything else.

    Tuesday, May 19, 2015

    will NAMO go in this area and see these respectable women who have been so shamelessly dealt....

    Nothing is more shameful then this. And then saffronists shout against Muslims and Christians for conversions. It is not muslims and christians responsible for conversions but such ghastly inhuman acts. And I understand government being silent but why supreme court? Those people who did this to nari devi must be hanged. Where r those women's organisations??? R they for atrocities on rich and celebrity women and not for dalit women???? Shame. I am shocked........Alok Tholiya
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    Friday, May 15, 2015

    Alok s comment on people criticising Bapuji or others

    The SC has opened the door for frivolous cases brought by organisations on behalf of “historically respectable personalities”, that can and will cast a severe...
    • Alok Tholiya I appreciate this ruling. Why cry over spoilt beans if at all they r spoilt. Think futuristic and visualise and then guide. Atleast thats what I do. And I am not boasting but I can see ,many things which will happen in future. If some one has time then read my writings of last 15 years like on and many things have turned out the way I warned. It is only how you develop your thinking. As far as Bapuji is concerned we can not understand in what circumstances / pressures he must have done or not done few things. Appreciate good of their work and find solutions for damage they may have done unknowingly. By just criticising we are not doing any good service to our future generation. We hv duty towards our future generation and right direction in that regard is more desired then throwing stones against who are no more. A humble comment.....

    Sunday, May 10, 2015

    My comment to my nephew on his request on Facebook

    My comment to my nephew on his request on Facebook

    Pranay Gangwal  said : Like always the number of wishes I get as comments on this post, I will plant that many trees

    Alok Tholiya Great . Plant more tree. Keep bowl of water for birds. Help accident victims.helping senior citizens, attending visitors and guests politely and offering seat and water, Guiding someone harassed by courts, police, govt depts and some more are the best thing one can do in life. You earn good karnas. Pl. continue this. Next time when u come here plant one tree in our compound too. I am proud for your mission. Keep it up.

    • Pranay Gangwal Alok Tholiya thanks mamaji I will plant one in your name and send you pics
    • Alok Tholiya No let it be in the name of any activist who has sacrificed life for issues of common man. That will make me more happy. Pl. do it in the name of late Kewal Semlani an humble but extremely dedicated RTI activist who trained hundreds like me as to how to use RTI against errant officials.